If you haven’t already, take a moment to watch the video in the right sidebar (or via ) called Being Truly Present. Then stop for another moment and check-in with yourself. What trips you up? Do you find yourself:
Looking outside, rather than within?
Having difficulty finding the quiet: to hear the voice within?
Being so focused on the end result — what you want to achieve; where you want to go — that you’re disconnected and missing what is right in front of you?
Falling into the fear trap: the needing to control? Wanting to know where the path goes, before taking the first step? If I can’t see ahead, how can I keep myself safe? Prepare myself? Know that I’m going to be okay? Know that I won’t fail? Know that I won’t…..?
There are myriads of books out there that try to help us sort through this. Some are the “Do this, this, and this” formulaic type approaches. Others are deeply reflective. What seems formulaic to one reader: resonates with another. What is a catalyst for change for one reader: falls flat for the other. Is it that one reader is more motivated than the other? Understands themselves better? Is more intuitive? Ready? Or do we just need to read, share, talk, experiment, explore — and listen to ourselves to find out what works best for us?
Below are short excerpts from books that have resonated with me. They have helped me on the path of learning (and continuing to learn) how to a) trip less often, b) recognize when I’ve tripped and c) get back on my feet again (eventually – smile).
“Stepping out of our comfort zone means dropping the patterns and stories of the past. If we don’t step out of the known – the comfort zone – we bring yesterday’s limited thinking into the present, therefore dooming the present to be just like the past.” –
“It’s only when you can let go of your expectations, that you can be open to whatever comes along. When you let go of the need to manage and control – so you can just enjoy whatever eventuates. When you let go of your need to analyze and dissect – so you can appreciate whatever arises in the instant it happens. When you let go of thinking about what you’re experiencing – so that you can just experience it for what it is.” -
“Learning to step aside from your false responsibilities means giving up your urge to control, defend, protect and ensure against risk. All of that is false responsibility. To the extent that you can let it go, you will stop interfering with the flow. To the extent that you cling, life will continue to bring even more things to control, and to defend yourself against. Risks will loom everywhere. It is not that fate is set against you. You are simply seeing reflections of your deepest beliefs, as consciousness unfolds the drama drawn up beforehand in your mind.” –
“When we let go of wanting something else to happen in this moment, we are taking a profound step toward being able to encounter what is here now.” -
Letting go of control; being in the here and now; listening; being comfortable in the quiet; being present….
“If we are not fully present for many of those moments, we may not only miss what is most valuable in our lives but also fail to realize the richness and the depth of our possibilities for growth and transformation.” –
Can you can find that place within yourself that is quiet; still; present? Can you quiet your mind, open your heart and accept the gifts that are being given to you today?