Passion / Purpose

Discovering how to live a life of passion and purpose; learning to be quiet, open and trusting, so we can see the next step on our path; and having the courage to live the life we were meant to live.

Believing We Can Be Anything (Again)…

Children see magic because they look for it (drawing by Diane Mottl)

When I was drawing this photo of my nephew as a wee-one, it reminded me of that childhood time when we thought we could be or do anything. We did not get caught up with the logistics: we let ourselves think big and believed that we could be whatever we dreamed up. I like to color, so I am going to be an artist when I grow up. I know how to skate, so I’m going to be a NHL hockey player. Yet somewhere along the way, it starts to shift. We begin to hear messages about whether or not our dream is “realistic” for someone of our […] Read more »

More Successful Than We Know..

Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right (drawing by Diane Mottl)

Isn’t it interesting, how easy it is to get caught up in what society deems as successful? Markers of success are everywhere. Earn this amount. Reach this high in your career. Have this level of responsibility. Inspire this many people. Make sure you accomplish at least this much each day. Raise children who achieve this level. We often associate success with an outcome: I have successfully accomplished X when I have achieved Y. Even if we are careful to make sure the “Y” is our best (not someone else’s), success still becomes about reaching a certain standard. We may celebrate the milestones along the way but success […] Read more »

The Non-Mother’s Mother’s Day…

Pencil drawing of baby holding Mom's finger (by Diane Mottl)

Whenever I am doing the polite get-to-know-you Q & A with someone, it inevitably happens. I am asked whether I have children. I used to say, “No, we do not have children” but since I look far younger than I am,  I would get the pity look and the “You still have time” comment. So a few years ago I changed the response to, “No, my husband and I chose not to have children.” Judging from some of the looks I got, you would think I sprouted horns out of my forehead. Their mouth would freeze in this half-smile of politeness (that looked more like a grimace) while their eyes furtively searched for someone else to […] Read more »

Easter Egg Hunts Were So Much Easier…

Pencil drawing of a child hunting for Easter eggs (by Diane Mottl)

Growing up in a cold climate, I have no memories of traipsing around fields searching for multi-colored Easter eggs. Since it was hit or miss whether the ground would be covered with snow, my parents had to be more inventive. My Dad hid our Easter eggs in the house, with hand-handwritten clues. The rules were simple. Decipher the clue, find the hiding space for the next clue and be rewarded each time with a sprinkling of foil-covered chocolate eggs. The final clue would lead us to the mother-load: a chocolate Easter bunny and the remaining chocolate eggs. Wouldn’t it be something if life worked that way? Discover […] Read more »

The Words to the Song in Your Heart…

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words. (Pencil drawing by Diane Mottl,

If you have read my blog before, you know I am a wee-bit of a quote junkie. I love how a snippet of wisdom can resonate so deeply it echoes for days. I found one such quote, after finishing the drawing of the two friends walking: “A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.” (Donna Roberts) Take a moment to let the waves of those words wash over you. Do you know what the song in your heart is? What fills you with joy?  What keeps […] Read more »

Putting Yourself Out There, Then Letting Go…

Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self (Drawing by Diane Mottl)

Confession time. When I started blogging a year ago, did I expect my blog to be an instant hit and reach thousands? Yes and No. I knew “instant hit” was a tad optimistic, but reaching thousands by year end felt like a realistic goal. Did I make it? Not even close. And boy, has that ever pushed buttons for this perfectionist-in-recovery. Over and over again, I have had to tell myself that the numbers do not matter: it is more important to reach that one person who finds something they need. I remind myself that each blog post gives me the opportunity to explore something […] Read more »

Resolutions: Saying No to make room for Yes…

Pencil drawing by Diane Mottl (

I just read a statistic saying that of the 45% of Americans who make New Year’s Resolutions, only 8% will achieve them.1 Why is that? It’s not like there isn’t enough information out there about goal setting and achieving dreams. A few keystrokes and Google has reams of articles on how to set SMART goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely), the Stages of Change, and how to use Vision Boards. Five minutes of digging can uncover tonnes of motivational, instructional and theoretical words to help us make the changes we know we should be making. Know we should be making. Maybe that’s one of the biggies getting in the […] Read more »

Taking that one itsy-bitsy step…

Original pencil sketch of feet tip-toeing through water - by author of

We are told to pursue our goals with bold, confident steps. There are 101 motivational quotes out there to give us the kick in the butt we need, right? But what about when the path beneath you shifts and you find yourself tip-toeing warily? The once bold steps become hesitant. The faltering pace begins to crumble your confidence. “If I truly wanted this, why am I digging in my heels?” You stop, unsure. As you stand on the precipice, how do you muster the courage to take that one itsy-bitsy step? Is it your Faith? The encouragement of others? Something deep within yourself? A few weeks ago, I was […] Read more »

Taking that first step…

photo credit: blentley via photopin ccWe find our way one step at a time. Stephen Buhner

Does fear stop you from taking that first step?  Fear of looking silly.  Fear of failing.  Fear of not being good enough.  Fear of being too good.  Fear of the unknown. What enables you to take that first step to try something new, take risks, be a different version of yourself; or completely get out of the old and into the new? Is it believing in yourself?  Having someone else believe in you?  Believing in something bigger than yourself? Are there two “voices” having a tug of war inside of you?  One saying, “Don’t do it, play it safe, you might fail, you might […] Read more »